Denying the Flesh: Living in the Spirit
In Christianity, the concept of “denying the flesh” is a foundational principle, yet it’s one often misunderstood or seen as extreme. At its core, “denying the flesh” simply means choosing to live with a posture of the heart that prioritizes humility, selflessness, and alignment with God’s Holy character as defined throughout history. Each day, we experience an array of thoughts and choices that demand discernment. Some of these thoughts lead us toward kindness, patience, and goodness, while others lean toward selfishness or even harm to ourselves or others. To deny the flesh is to filter these thoughts, to turn away from self-centered desires, and instead, align our hearts with God’s love and purpose.
On a practical level, denying the flesh can take many forms: offering your seat to someone on the subway, listening to others attentively without the need to assert your viewpoint, or simply choosing foods that nourish rather than gratify a craving. It can mean looking at people as whole beings rather than objects for gratification, or making choices that honor your partner by respecting emotional boundaries with others. In every instance, it’s a decision to choose love, honor, and restraint over impulsive desires.
The Christian approach to sexuality offers a powerful example. In modern culture, sexual freedom is often touted as a form of self-expression and autonomy. However, in this view, people can become reduced to objects for gratification, leading to temporary satisfaction rather than long-lasting, meaningful connection. God’s design for intimacy within marriage is a commitment of mutual love and respect—a stark contrast to fleeting encounters. As believers, seeing sexuality in the context of commitment allows for genuine intimacy without diminishing others for personal fulfillment.
Scripture emphasizes the beauty and strength in self-control: “For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever you want” (Galatians 5:17). Here, Paul describes the ongoing challenge of choosing between self-gratification and the higher calling of God-centered actions. Another verse, “ I discipline my body like an athlete, training it to do what it should. Otherwise, I fear that after preaching to others I myself might be disqualified.” (1 Corinthians 9:27), shows that self-control is not about self-denial for its own sake but about living in a way that aligns with God’s standards, building resilience, and setting a sincere example for others.
By denying the flesh, we cultivate a sense of freedom that many mistakenly believe comes from indulging every desire. The difference is that self-control liberates us from being slaves to impulses and addictions. It keeps our hearts clear, allowing us to give and receive love more deeply, think more clearly, and remain open to God’s guidance. Choosing to deny the flesh is not about restriction but about stepping into a fullness of life that honors God and others. The journey requires us to lean on God’s strength, but as we do, we find freedom, peace, and purpose in living beyond ourselves. When we seek Him, He meets us with the strength to persevere, transforming our hearts and renewing our spirits.